do you want to stay married?

Monday, June 12, 2006

Make me want to get healthy.

First: Stop bringing home ice cream, cookies, pop, chips, whatever it is I eat too much of. I understand you want a treat, but you are at work all day and have ample opportunity.

Second: Offer to cook more, and cook things that are low in fat and carbs. If you like to barbecue, this is perfect, because grilled veggies are my favorite and I would much rather eat a plate of these than a cheesburger.

Third: Chances are, if I have put on weight, so have you, Mr. Double Standard. Your waist size on your pants may say thirty two inches, but the strained button and the belley hanging over tell a different story. So under the guise of being romantic, take me on a walk to the store instead of driving. Take me hiking. Let's fix up the bikes and ride them. You need to put some effort into this, too.

Fourth and MOST IMPORTANT!!!

I need to feel attractive. Just because I am heavier doesn't mean I stopped feeling and being a woman. I need gentle touch, hugs, kisses (real kisses, none of this on the forehead bullshit,) cuddles and compliments. If that's too much work for you maybe you need to get yourself a plastic girlfriend and set me free. Don't make me ask for compliments , then anything I get feels shallow. Here are some thngs I would love to hear, since you seem to have no skills in this area:
Feel free to be liberal with affection while using these phrases, just don't limit it to when you want to get laid.

"Wow. You look great."
"You smell good."
"You have such beautiful eyes."
"Just thinking about you makes me want you."

The following are not compliments, especially in the given context.

You:"Mmmm, shake it. (meaning my butt)
Me: "yeah? that might start an earthquake."
Me: "This would be a good time to say something nice."
You: "Ummm,
I like it."


Me: "it would be nice to hear a compliment once in a while"
YOu: 'Well, I like boning you!"
Me: "Try again."
You: "Umm, I like that orange nighty you wear sometimes. I was going to tell you it looks cute but I forgot."
Me: "You mean the pink one? I dont' have an orange one."
You: "Yeah, the pink one. Why don't you go put it on now."
Me: "You mean the one I'm wearing right now?"
You: "Oh yeah that's the one. Umm, I like it."

Un-asked-for compliments and affection will go a long way toward making me want to be even hotter looking for you. Ignoring this need of mine makes me feel worthless, and unworthy of taking care of myself. It also makes me feel resentful toward you, and less likely to want to be better for you.


The power of romantic suprises.


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